I don't have any answers, we are in the same boat. My husband is "bipolar" and uses threats of suicide. He won't let me work outside the home but won't insure my future if something were to happen to him (I asked that we draw up our wills) and he became upset. I am 44 haven't worked for 12 years (however I bust my butt working for he and his brother's family owned business) which he says I have no rights to. So I quit doing all the paperwork since last month. My name is on some of the company debts. Most of the assets are in his brother's name! He totally trusts him and I think he is screwing my husband over in a major way. Instead of dealing with the problem he sticks his head in the sand and goes into depression, staying in bed for days! We have been married for 19 yrs. He has cheated on me, I don't know how many times but I think it has been more than he is admitting to (bipolar was to blame - how convenient) He has no memory of the horrible things he has said and done to me in the past (bipolar - how convenient) He is unpredictable and I am afraid to tell him I am sooooo done! He has no loyalty to me or our 14 yr old son, but he is loyal to his alcoholic brother who seems to have some type of control over him. He is a wimp to everyone else except me-I can't figure it out. I always thought if I worked hard and was honest and faithful things would be good, boy was I sadly mistaken!