Many people cannot understand the situation such as ours. It's frustrating to reason (and even communicate) to a spouse who flip-flops their stance and emotions virtually on a minute-to-minute basis. It comes to a point where instead of even trying to communicate, you deal with situations the best you can. If it results in the spouse having a verbal assault at your expense later, then you cross that bridge when it comes. It may further strain the relationship, but - at least in my case - the relationship had long ago stretched itself beyond repair by her actions, so it makes no difference now, anyway.

If you haven't tried counseling, it may be an avenue worth persuing. For me, I had two prior marriages before this one in which *I* did everything possible to salvage the relationship in which the woman cheated - including counseling - but nothing helped in the end. I should have learned after the first one, but I was brought up (read: brainwashed) to respect, admire, and even worship the opposite sex (what man isn't?), but it has taken me three marriages to finally understand that it was all a complete and utter lie. I'm not saying there aren't women out there who are appreciative to this type of man, but life's too short and finding the proverbial needle just ain't worth it, IMHO. Add to that an obviously biased court system (and a society that supports it) and that only adds to the dilemma.