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Stoltz, your astuteness is only exceeded by your ability to understand the real world and I feel your pain. You sound like you have a handle on what you need to do and I hope things work out the way you want them to. You have that right!
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Actually, in the USA, in the Family Court system, and if you are specifically an NCP and/or a man, you have no (or VERY limited) rights.