On the other hand, it sounds like she doesn't need your advice on domestic things like lunches and where to buy gas - she can do that herself obviously. You telling her that stuff too would be irritating and probably makes her feel like you think she's stupid.

>>>>>>>>>>> Here's how a thread goes terribly wrong , SHE freaks out over the little things .

To quote:

"Yet when I try to make a decision on something as mundane as where to buy gas or what to eat for lunch she hits the roof and it's back to the shrieker."