I have been married less than 5 mos and of those 5 we've only been living together for 2 mos. Over the past three weeks my husband's anger has escalated toward me and my 6 yo daughter. This all seemed to start when my daughter accused my husband of throwing a glue stick at her. He said he didn't do it and then got extremely angry, storming out of the house because my daughter "lied" on him. After this my daughter became increasingly afraid of him, hiding every time he comes in the room, rushing out of the room if she suddenly realizes she's alone with him. She says that she's scared because she thinks he might hit, punch or kick her. He claims he's done nothing to her, but I've seen him jump at her like he was going to hit her and then try to "sneak" away. My daughter also says that he stuck her in the leg with a pen. At first, I thought my daughter was making stuff up - acting out because of the new family structure, moving, new school, etc. But my husband's anger and outbursts have become so irrational: if my daughter flinches or leaves the room he tries to interrogate her about why and if I interrupt or say anything I am making excuses for her or covering up; I get constant text messages about how my daughter is ruining his life, making him miserable - that if she says tells lies about him hitting her it would ruin his the coaching he does with a local aau chapter. Lately, he refers to her as my f***ing child, says he can't stand to hear her laugh with me because it makes him sick, he's been pressing me to spank her, and thinks he should discipline her because I talk to her too much. He refuses to go to counseling, tells me it's bullsh*t, that the two of us have a lot of fu**ing nerve. Every other day he threatens to pack his sh** and leave, because he’s not kissing a 6 y.o.’s a$$.

My daughter is so scared that she hides in her room, wraps her self in a blanket just to watch tv, she's poured water in her bed, and even pulled out a chunk of her hair. I have been so afraid that I have not let her be alone with him and this is making my husband even madder. He's lied on her over and over and I recently found out he's been at the least texting an old girlfriend about how much he misses her and then lied to me about it. He's started using the problems with my daughter to stay out of the house. The more I've stood up to him about my daughter, the worse he's been - last week he threw a bottle of water three times during an argument which started when I asked him for his share of the bills. He said he was throwing it at the door - a door I happened to be standing two feet away from. I called the police and later went to file for an order of protection.(Even after he told me they wouldn't do anything to him because he didn't touch me.) Through counseling I am beginning to understand that what I attributed to my husband’s quirks is actually verbally and emotionally abusive behavior. On one hand I feel horrible that after just five mos I want to end my marriage. But I don’t trust that he will ever sincerely change – and that he set out to use me and take advantage of me financially from the start.