There is an awful amount of drama for a short marriage. Sorry, but I am hard core on this. You can't decide on your marriage until the drama dies down. Your daughter needs immediate counseling. Whether she is telling the truth or not - she needs help and now.

You and your ex need counseling separate of her. She is controlling the house and you need to figure that out. You should both have voices here but your daughter needs to be safe emotionally and physically.

Now - outside looking in - this did not start just after you were married. This has escalated too fast. You need to step back and figure out where you are in the cycle.