I agree with Jersey. But I have to ask: what was it that caused the two fo you to NOT live together early in the marriage? To me, that would be a clue... pretty much every time things go weird like that, it's a clue of odd things happening (now, if the reason is that he was on active duty or something, that would solve that issue, but it sounds, the way you say it, like this was NOT that simple an explanation).

Throwing a glue stick? That's not nice, but not exactly ... abusive. A little like throwing a pretzel stick at someone. I'd want to know how a stupid glue stick became such an issue that it was worth a big argument over whether or not it was true.

When people are living under the threat of being accused of awful things, it's easy for things to get weird, so his being upset about you walking in your own home like you're on pins & needles, being angry over being treated like a liar in some power struggle with a 6 year old in HIS own home... you not allowing your child to be alone with him... having his status as a coach in jeopardy over the 6 year old's accusations... well, these are all things that would easily make anyone get upset (even if they were NOT abusive) ... now whether it justifies the drama going on here, I don't know... and which came first, the drama or the bad behavior, I also don't know. But ...

I agree with Jersey, everyone needs counseling here. If you can't get over your distrust of him, then you need to separate from him. If he can't get to a point where he feels his wife supports him and is not aligning against him in some unfair campaign waged by a 6 year old against him, well, he needs to be separate from you. And if your child can't EITHER stop distrusting him OR stop creating drama, well... then SHE needs to be out of that house.

Only a counselor could sort it all out, I think.