Our stories arent' the same but similar. I have been with my husband since I was 18 - had a baby at 22, moved in togehter at 24, started to gain weight. At the same time I also got ALL the responsibility - for him, our daughter and his son from a previous marriage. The household chores, the bills, & then looking for a better job. Then, I got a travelling salesperson job - made it even harder to get to the gym or worry about my food. I made 6 figures plus but I was fat. So....I continued to make good money and he had an affair with a 21 year old janitor. When I confronted him he OINKED at me in the kitchen and said you've gotten so fat OINK OINK.

You can only do so much - right now I am (was ) trying to save my marriage but he really messed up tonight - things had been tough but mouthing off can make them tougher.

I wish you luck and hope for happiness for you. Someday I will find it too