What i meant by the abuse to my advantage was my husbands abuse not mine. Mine should not even be considered abuse because i didnt hit my husband and if i did it wasnt just because. I obviously was furious to have found him with some [censored] wich you probably understand because you as I can see don't see my point of view at all. You must have something in common with this homewrecking tramp I caught my husband with. And why in the HELL would I want to stick around a peice of crap state that is not even my home where i have no friends and family to support me for me to raise my children. Oh yeah that's real great influence and example for my children for them to continue to live in a home around there adulterer father and his [censored]. About the anger management that crap dont even work my husband is goin on two years of anger management treatment and he still kicked my ass! in front of my children and pregnant.