malone,
thanks for giving her that advice.
i needed the same reminder myself this weekend.

taryn.

[quote][quote].. he tells me he deserves better and that im fat ( im 5foot 3 and weigh 130ibs), unattractive and that he cant bear to be in the same room as me, he says he cant even look at me. [/quote]

Hi Zee.

Just stop right there with that bit in the quote. Go back and read what you just wrote about your marriage.

That's not a marriage. Husbands who love their wives don't talk to them in that way. A man who adores his wife doesn't say things like that. I'm really sorry that you have to listen to such demoralising things.

It's not you. It is bad. That's a man with serious issues and one who doesn't seem to love you or is very sick. If he does love you, he sure has a strange way of showing it.

So many people here have tried to fix what didn't feel right for a long time, only to come away finally accepting they couldn't fix it.

That's your choice now - without having to waste years and years of your life to only find out the same thing you're finding now.

Good luck. Everyone deserves to be loved properly by their husband or wife. Don't settle for so much less. [/quote]