Go on with your life I have been waiting for my ex to change for 12 yrs. After I married again he stood on my doorstep and actually questioned me as to why I had remarried. He said and I quote, "You are my wife." I was a posession not a person to him. His next wife had him arrested for beating her up, they are now soon to be ex's and the girlfriend he has had since then saw the violent side of him also. He is on to another woman now. Abusers are crafty and I think they lie so much that they believe what they say to be the truth.

All in all please do not spend anymore time waiting for change. It will be great if it does happen but could you every truly forget the past enough to have a real relationship. Remember the bruises on the outside will fade long before the ones on the inside.