Oh my God...are you trying for sainthood....you are always giving and what have you gotten?...you may be right about the job....he makes a half-ass concern for your future...without you knowing of course....

If you feel and by all means.. you sure have been shown...that there is something seriously wrong here!

If your needs are not regarded...then in his mind..you don't exsist...stbx had so many rules...funny ..he had none for himself..he was invincible...major money maker...I was nothing but a piss ant...

You can't keep giving that way...he has no right to order you around...sure he does not want a divorce..he has you all trained already...and as you seen with his mulitiple affairs....someone willing to take what he dishes out is hard to find...stbx didn't want a divorce either...where else could find such an all-day sucker like me..

When I decided that his abuse was going to stop..he decided to throw one more head bang to the floor on me...and he was arrested and jailed and fined...so I guess someone else also thought he was wrong...and then I filed for divorce...I have no choice..he has nothing more to say...because now..I don't have to listen..
...You are nobodies slave and he is not your boss...just stop trying to reason with him and start talking to a counseler..or find an abuse center...that is where they specialize in handling abusive situations...and can do more that just regular counseling...they have legal aides...and can help you if you need to move out...

I felt like I was talking to myself...because all he could say was.."Get out of the way..I'm trying to watch some TV"...exhausting and never caring...make some rules for yourself..let him know where the line stops...you deserve a good life...