[quote]look at your separation objectively are you better emotionally with her gone. Are you a better person with her out of your life than you were with her in your life. If you can say yes then you must let her go and for your own sanity I would recommend breaking the ties.

Christine [/quote]

Looking back, it really hurt knowing that I was a lower priority than her job and her students (she's a teacher). She would always tell me that things would get better, and I believed her. I deserve a woman that will put me first in her life and will want a family. If my STBX can't do that, then of course, I don't want her in my life.... but it doesn't erase the pain that I am going through.

Am I better person w/o her? When I felt wanted, I felt bigger than life. I have always placed a huge value on family. And now that's coming back to haunt me. Because w/o my wife, I am struggling to redefine myself as a single. On the other hand, I now have a chance to find a woman that will treat me like I'm the most important thing in her life.