I am sorry but I have the same stuff from my STBX. He told my daughter he wants to be friends. He wants to be friends because our adult children don’t really want much to do with him. He almost ruined my daughter’s wedding with his affair. The kids just don’t have a relationship with him but if he was friends with me, he could hang out with them occasionally. So he will try to continue to use me.

I think it is a way for the person asking for the divorce to be gentle. I am sure there must have been a Seinfeld episode on something like this. Or was that the one about how it is “not you” “but me” break up.