Why is it that when someone who posts on this board goes to jail, s/he doesn't get a harsh and nasty label?

Why is it that when someone who admits to alcoholism, he avoids the harsh and nasty label?

Obviously something is WRONG in those situations, too, no?

My own journey beyond cheating is really NONE of anyone's business, and I do NOT have to answer Jada's, or anyone else's questions regarding MY situation and what I'm doing to move on with my life - unless I choose to. If I did, would that remove the animosity and over-the-top name-calling???

Probably not.

Now, if there's anyone out there who wants to take my example and hypothetical question and come up with a response that addresses the other extreme, that of the impact of being a victim, whether you were or weren't, by all means, have at it.

Otherwise, I'm done on this thread. If I wanted to be verbally abused, I'd have stayed with my STBX and never had the affair in the first place.