I don't get all the contact issues. Perhaps I am just a little obtuse on this issue. My ex was the one that wanted the divorce. My ex is engaged to be remarried approximately 2 years after we agreed to divorce. However, there was no abuse or infidelity so maybe that makes a difference but we speak, text, or email at least 4 times a week. I see her at drop off and pick up of my kids and we exchange small talk and even chat from time to time. It never affects me either positively or negatively, its just life.