I do realize that my situation is different than others on here. I wasn't lied to, cheated on, or otherwise abused and didn't do the same to my ex. She was the one that wanted the divorce so it was sprung on me unexpectedly but when life hands you lemons make lemonade.

Even when we were divorced and still living together I took things for what they were and never allowed myself to get upset about things. I just absorbed them and let them flow through me and then I was done. Yes, it is mostly friendly now that we have moved to separate houses and perhaps we are both more adult about the situation than the ex's of those that continue to have trouble.

I do know that others will only treat you the way you allow them to and if you (the universal you) do it eventually they will have to change.