I mentioned above that my daughter has been in some trouble - basically, her ex-boyfriend poured chocolate milk and rice over her head in the lunch room and she assaulted the safety officer trying to get to him. Anger and embarrassment. Assault is assault but it wasn't a punch or anyting, it was flailing arms that got her. Anyway...that was the start of many, many more bad days for her. My husband and I were fighting, he was in and out due to his affair and our terrible way of handling things. Lots of drinking.

My daughter grew to despair and mentioned killing herself. I called in my family for help and we all agreed we needed counseling. My dr. refused to go and broke a bunch of things in my house saying I hated her and wanted her to leave. I called 911 and had her taken in for evaluation.

IMAGINE, my SURPRISE, when after 4 hours in the ER with a psychiatrist I was called in to her room and told this:

"Your daughter is a fine young woman. I believe if you and your husband could get your shit together, she will be just fine....."

Talk about a dose of bad parenting reality. Been there.

Your kids need you - don't think they don't - pull yourself together :) From the sounds of the other posts, your a great person - remember that!