Pat, you are so right about romanticizing our marriages. I have to keep reminding myself about how lonely I was when he was here. It is so much easier to remember all of the good things in the relationship and block out the bad, to justify missing the very person who made us feel lonely in the first place.

It is easier to deal with the "familiar" than the "unknown", but we have to keep reminding ourselves that just because it feels familiar, doesn't mean that it feels good or is good for us!

Patty