Redchair-

Your STBX needs things to gloss over the pain. The cocaine addiction did this for him. Now that you are gone, the new GF does this for him as well. He's putting a bandaid over the wounds.

The relationship he has formed with this new woman is built on a faulty foundation. It is built on a rebound and a drug addiction. So... I'm not saying that the relationship is going to fail. I am saying that it might not really be love, but a love for the need to numb the pain.

I'm sorry you are in so much pain.