Hi Red,

It sounds like this news caught you on a downswing. Regardless, my way of dealing with this sort of stuff is dive right into the sorrow and bawl my eyes out for a while. It sort of marks the definite end of things. All you have to do now is go through the formality of the actual divorce.

I remember when it became apparent that it was over. I was inconsolable. I screamed at the walls, then went outside and lashed out at the sky. I begged God to just let me die. .380 inches of super sonic lead exiting the back of my head had never seemed so attractive. My life was over.

Yes. Even that passed.

While cleaning up the old life, I'm just starting a new life. To start this life I had to die to the old life. And, yes, it did feel like death.

Your spirit will rise. You will love again. You're not the first to go through this and those of us on the other side tell you that there is an end and that you'll make it through. Have faith.

In the mean time, you have my permission to grieve and then to heal.

Blessings to you.