There is great wisdom in love. I'm not talking about sappy syrupy "ooo ooo baby how I oooo ooo oo" sort of "love." But, the sort of sane love you feel with your son. The love that gives you courage, has healthy boundaries and just feels appropriate.

When you are consciously in a place of love your heart can withstand the truth. It can still hurt, but you have the strength to face it and get through.

Do you have a relative that speaks of love and wisdom? Talk to him/her.

And, get yourself some hugs - preferably from someone with a big heart.

I hope this makes sense.

Tom