I don't know when we actually stop thinking about the ex (if ever). We all heal from the divorce eventually, but it seems they are always in our memories. I know my ex is. They seem to pop up at unexpected times. Take this weekend for example. I am one year, 3 months into this and I have gotten over him, moved on, am happy with my life, yadda, yadda, yadda. But, for some reason, this weekend I have been in the dumps (maybe because I know the ex and the GF are having a cookout with family or that I was at Home Depot today which is where we would go to together). I have even been a little weepy at times and this has not happened for about 6 months. I wonder if it is the lonliness creeping back in. So how do we get them out of our heads? I wish I knew the answer to that.