My "kids" are 20, 23, and 25. Each has said something that can be construed as "support." None have "taken me under their wing." Nor, would I expect any of them.

Kids are SUPPOSED to take their parents for granted. I figure that's the way it should be until they reach 35 or 40 or so. By then, many have an idea what it's like to care for someone else and how life is put together.

Until then, they have too much self-exploration to do.

But, just a short sentence like, "I think Mom's being selfish about this." unprompted, goes a LONG way towards making me feel better. If that's all the "support" I get I will still count myself very fortunate.