Dad I agree. It hurts like hell and opening up at least some of your emotions to your kids lets them see that you are human and that you do feel and didn't want this. If it is too much I think they will tell you. I know my daughter told me that I was crying too much in front of her and now I know that it distresses her so I don't share that with her if I can help it. Best of all as you get stronger and you become a well adjusted happy person again weather it is with your wife or single or with someone else it will show your kids that they will also survive when bad things happen in life. I hope when all is said and done that is what I will teach my daughter.

Christine