Actually, with Tookie's post I think I'm FINALLY getting a clue about what NOT to do.

Being there is great and I appreciate it like nothing else. But, I'm looking at this as a way not to spend my NEXT 30 years in the misery I was in before. Yes. She left and I'm all torn up about it. But, I was pretty flying miserable for probably 24 of those years.

Thank-you. I'm hanging tough - and getting ready to attack.