I am having a hard time being able to forgive my ex for what she has done. I'm not talking about minor things like arguments and things of that type. No, I mean the adultery, the lying, her excessive drinking, injuring our child, conspiring with her boyfriend to destroy me financially. Admittedly, I was not perfect. But I was faithful, honest, true, never hit or abused her or my child and genuinely tried to be a good husband and father. I worked hard and paid all my debts and bills. I was responsible and made time with her and my family. I can handle her and I divorcing because we were too different. But cannot forgive the way she behaved, still behaves. I don't want to harbor ill feelings forever. I know I'll never forget but forgiving someone who intentionally tried to destroy you for their own selfish gain; someone whom you once loved and thought they loved you, how do you forgive someone like that?