[quote]I don't know why I chose him. But I think I know why he chose me. His whole family liked me, his mom, his son, his sisters. They had never liked either of his previous ex's. I am a lot like his mom. I got along great with his whole family.

I also think he liked the chase. But, although I had been single for the previous 13 years, the one thing I hate, the one thing I cannot tolerate, is someone leaving me. And I told him that. I guess I shouldn't have because it apparently gave him all the power.

He was the opposite of most of what I am typically attracted to. Bald, tattos everywhere. I guess he was a "bad boy." But I could see that he had a soft side. But he sure didn't show it very long. [/quote]

I think this is your problem, as HK said. It's who you married. And he wasn't really your type. I had the same problem, choosing the wrong type/ settling, for some reason thinking that over time it would work.

But I stand by my opinion that guys who are mature and worth being with in the long run do not want a high maintenance beyotch that causes nothing but aggravation.
Younger guys who haven't been thru the grinder maybe, but not those of us who have.

I don't mind, however, spending SOME time with these types, as I do enjoy some confrontation, and am a bit of a masochist, but only part time.