It sounds like communication that would have helped a long time ago.

Kind communication is good - and preferable. However, sometimes in an intimate relationship stronger terms and tactics need to be employed.

We probably would have been helped by having a screaming match now and then. We were both conflict averse. How can there be passion without there ever being anger?

If you can't be strong without acting the b!tch then you have to work with what you have.

BTW: I'm perfect. :)