Wow, it always worries me when I hear all this stuff. There's a huge range of ways to be, between bitchy and doormat. I suggest finding the MIDDLE ground.

There's something very uncivil about the behaviors that women are aspiring to... seeking to learn to be biotches... seeking to be divas, princesses, pampered prisses. It's NOT an attractive thing! And so often it's not backed by a thing... loud proclamations of self-esteem without an accomplishment or good QUALITY to back it up. I mean, think back on it... all the b1tchy women you've known in your life... people were their friends NOT because people LIKEd them, but because people were intimidated by them.

If you really want to learn how to be a b1tch, turn on that cable show (is it VHS or MTV?) Sweet Sixteen. It's FRIGHTENING how nasty these girls can be. Thier daddies make a lot of money so they create birthday parties for thier 16th birthday that are intended to rival any foolishness they've seen on TV. These little girls practicing nasty behaviors, putting down kids who don't meet thier "standards" (not dressing cool enough or whatever), and the excuse is, "I DESERVE it". Yeah... right... what have they EVER done to deserve such a huge payday? kissed Daddy when he came home from work? Poor kids do that too, but know better than to expect a huge party out of it.

Instead of trying to learn how to be mean to others, consider trying to learn how to be your own best self and be proud of your best self and refuse to accept being treated like dirt by anyone, INCLUDING the b1tches of this world.

When you start presenting yourself to the world in a b1tchy way, you will get the response from the world that the b1tches get.