It's good to hear you are feeling better. it is really freeing to figure things like that out.

Sometimes we try so hard to please others that we lose a sense of ourselves. I know I did in my marriage. I gave every part of myself to my wife and she walked all over my heart. I would have been better off just being myself and if she didn't like it then too bad. That's one thing I have learned through this process. It's not so much about being a [censored], but being yourself.