i think that i need to revamp my attitude towards the stbx's gf and kids.
no NOT revamp it, but revisit the 'relationship' i have mentally.
while the gf and kids are bad news,
it would seem i will have no choice but to have my kids be around them, so.....

im going to slowly but surely
work at establishing some sort of mature adult relationship here.

is this a viable option?

im thinking that in reality, she will be taking as much, if not more care of my kids than my stbx when our kids go to his house.
so....how do the rest of you deal with it?

those of you with truely unhealthy adults that live with your children's other parent...what do you do here?
what is the best thing for the kids?
or should i just say the hell with it and treat her like white trash?

somehow,
im thinking my best best is to be a bit less bitchy and maybe even 'nice'...

now,
mind you, rumor has this relationship going south,
but we've all heard that before! LOL>

so...what is the best course of action for the good of the kids? would she be inclnded ot be nicer? keep my values? anything if i treat her kindly instead of like a psycho [censored]? or will she just do whatever anyhow?

ps. what a weird way of thinking...to befriend the other woman in your kids life. odd, wierd, sad, but possibly, necessary...

all input welcome.

pss.
if she wasnt nuts id rather deal with her than my stbx.
but she is nuts....