I was divorced before. Three weeks after my daughter's dad left he moved in with this woman. At first I did not care for her at all. But, she was a nurse, and I knew who was taking care of my daughter. She was, not my ex. So, I was nice to her, and I was rather relieved, because I felt like a nurse would never purposely hurt a child and because I felt like she had some brains (except for the letting my ex move in with her part). Anyhow, to make a long story short, she and my ex parted ways years ago. She moved away, but we became quite good friends, believe it or not. In fact, summer before last my daughter and I flew to Canada to meet her there (she's married now with a son and step-daughter) at her parents (she lives in Connecticut but is from Canada).

At first it did feel very strange. What was really strange is one night she called me asking me what she should do (ex was doing same things to her he did to me, staying out all night but acting like it was my problem not his, blah blah). Anyway, I told her she shouldn't ask me that, because I'm good at BREAKING UP because if it was me I would throw all his shit into the front yard and change the locks. She then told me that she had been wanting to do that a long time, but she was afraid she wouldn't ever get to see my daughter. I assured her that I knew she was the one taking care of my daughter and that I would let her see her. Anyway, she threw the ex out and changed the locks. If I had a date or needed to do something and she wasn't working, she kept my daughter. She even threw a birthday party for her at her house that was awesome.

And we even went out many times, went to movies together, etc. It did, and still does, bother my ex that she and I get along so great!

So, I guess it all depends on your situation. But, I had been praying and praying because I was scared to death my ex would drink himself into a coma and then my little girl would be running around his apartment by herself (or with some of his friends, who knows) getting into who knows what. So, at first I hated her guts. But in the end, she has become a great friend. Besides, it was funny when people would ask how we met and she'd say "shy's my ex fiances ex-wife" or I would say "she's my ex-husband's ex fiance."