Hey there, Actually my boyfriend of about 5 years (way before I got married), had a one night stand and got a girl pregnant. It was the most painful thing I have ever been through, and honestly it took me many years to get over it. Even after I had married, I still thought "that b*tch has my life". That has been about 10 years ago and I just recently got to the point where it did not bother me anymore. He ended up marrying her and they have another child too. For years (even while married) I still wondered why this other woman (who is also named Heather) had my life. Honey, the only thing I can tell you is to pray for strength and time will help. Everything happens for a reason and there IS a reason this happened to you. Whatever is thrown at us as challenges, we are doubly rewarded later with graces. We deal with the pain, but at some point the pain is replaced by a greater joy. It will come, but I know it's not easy. Hang in there!!

Hugs, Heather