If you've made up your mind to divorce him, then do it. Don't put up with the misery any longer. Check with your county's family law court to see if they have an attorney referral service or an office that can answer specific questions about Alabama law.

I filed for divorce in April 2004. It's been the nastiest, ugliest, most soul-destroying thing I've ever experienced. I have no idea when it will end or if I'll survive it (yes, it's been that bad). I hope you have an easier time of it. I married someone who was a con artist and pure evil but to the outside world he was sweet as pie.

Here's what I've learned in the process.

Lawyers don't care about you or your kids. They only want your money. The judge doesn't care either. He just wants to move on to the next case. The person you married is now the enemy. You can't trust them. Don't expect fairness or decency from him. Get everything in writing. Protect yourself in anyway you can legally, financially, etc. Being nice will only encourage him to take advantage of you. He will use your weaknesses and insecurities against you in any way he can.

I don't know what to tell you about God's part in it. God is not available to be your lawyer or judge, at least not while you're walking around on Earth, so leave Him out of it for now.