she has gone so far out of jealousy to say she is going to have it put in the papers that I can't be around them. how ridiculous is that? can she do this?

>>>>>>>>>> Maybe . Some judge's will allow restraining orders that no non-spouse spend the night while the children are in the custody of either parent . The terms would also apply to her

can you give me some kind of insight on what kind of actions he should take?

>>>>>>>>> Prove he's the more stable parent and that he will encourage a relationship between the kids and their other parent .