Thanks for your response,

I have a question about the kids health coverage, you said that was covered in child support but they are both beyond the age of CS in Virginia so I thought it would then be split 50/50 so thats why I thought the monthly premium would come out of the alimony. Am I mistaken about that?

As to the debts, I am doing what you advise. All of the debt in my name is what I am taking on even though at least 50% was used for her debts, that ok though.

I already called the health insurance folks and they said she would not be covered but I did read somewhere that she could pay Cobra premiums to stay on the insurance. Having seen these 'Cobra' premiums I doubt she can afford them even if I am responsible for 50% of them as they are very high in Virginia. If she gets her own insurance would I be responsible for half her premiums and would that be part of the alimony or on top of what I think we can agree on.

Lastly, I have no idea if I'm being fair, stingy or too generous, is about $1000 a month until she marries or co-habits ok.

I really appreciate your help as I have read a lot of sad stories here and elsewhere and am thankful my situation is relatively calm