Wow! A lot of useful information to digest. Thanks to everyone for responding. It seems like i'm in a bad state for divorcing (NJ). I'll definately let everyone out here know what happens and keep you all updated on this thread. I'm working on that balance sheet of assets. This stuff is like accounting class. I wonder if the judge will consider that she is 4 years younger than me and has some time on her clock to make up the difference? Also, i'd love to throw this pitch: our standard of living was horrible because our mortgage was so high. Even on her income, her standard of living will improve without alimony.

Think it'll work? In fact, do you even get a chance to speak during the hearing. And yes, i'm definately going to try to make sure it never gets that far.