Thanks Kimberly, a crazy mess isn't it? I just wonder why motherhood and family seem so de valued. I don't WANT the moon...I want to get my life going. The minute I get a job...I'd stop alimony but won't tell him that yet.

I feel awful for my kids...he thinks at 18 they should have it all together and be close to self supporting.....in his dreams!!

All my kids are good decent kids, no major drug problems, work problems...etc. The one that works for him, that's 21 is going to be an alcoholic like him...but he's still a decent kid in so many ways.

Anyway...thanks to all who have posted and any input is wonderful. cheeps