[quote]You are a complete jerk! You have no idea what it's like to raise 2 kids with special needs, especially when your husband has not only atmitted there is something wrong but hasn't taken any part in helping them or making them better. I lived w/ years of neglect and abandonment and I've finally had it. You are obviously someone who can't see the situation for what it is and are a woman scored yourself! Go (censored) yourself, no one else will [/quote]

1. refrain from name calling. it really isnt very nice. or at the VERY least make the name appropriate. Calling me 'bitter' or even 'bitchy' by my reply would be MUCH more accurate than calling me a jerk.

That having been said, OH! AND being that you are open to the name calling.
well, you my friend a slut In case it's censored that word is s l u t.
note my use of ACCURATE name calling (again, i dont promote such things, but since it works for you, im not opposed)

2. do not even START to tell me 'i dont know what ________ was like!'
Neglected. Abandoment. Pffft.
Now THERE are some nice little reasons for having an affair and getting a divorce.
yeah. well. NOT!
Try years of verbal abuse, slowly leading into physical abused throughout the years, finally going onto the kids.
Going out every day and drinking himself into a near stupor.
Note im not even MENTIONING teh fact that my stbx was a [censored]
(and i STILL stayed....oh, never mind, there go my silly little 'morals' again)

I didnt leave until it was dangerous for me Physically, and I was scared for the kids.

What i wouldnt do to have simpley had a marriage where i felt neglected or abandoned.

OH! arent YOU essentailly doing the same thing?
um...if youre having an affair then you have abandoned and neglected the marriage too.

It should be intersting to see how nice and rosey your affair relationship goes.
Sounds like you have a nice morally sound, committed, trustworthy guy there.

have fun destroying your marriage.
i hope you get NOTHING!

3. you are an untrustworthy, liar, and cheater. YOu will most likely loose credibility in the eyes of anyone who knows this story. but dont worry....they dont have to know...you can just...lie.

ps. do NOT come o this site spouting words " you have no idea what it's like...." cuz someone often does, and someone alwyas has it worse.