You said:

He was in a terrible mental state when going through this divorce and she took avantage of it fully...
She gets half of his retirement..

My response:

She didn't take advantage in this case. At least half of any retirement savings that were acquired during their marriage is hers. They split a marital asset down the middle.

You said:

will receive half of his life insurance and looks like he is ordered to pay for Spousal survivors benefits...

My response:

If there is spousal support or child support awarded, this is normal.

You said:

Then she took him back to court and got another $100 amonth in maintenance...this all happened in Kansas...She makes more money monthly than he does...he is living on next to nothing while trying to he on SSD...We live in AR...He also had a terrible lawyer back then , who has removed him self since from practice...Is there anyway we can get a lawyer down here in AR to set some of these provisions revoked??...

My response:

He's not going to be able to get the asset division revoked. Half of the retirement is hers. No way around that one.

Now, the alimony part can be addressed. If he is on SSD, he can file for either a modification or a termination based on a substantial change of circumstances. Whether or not he gets it depends on how the divore decree is worded.

You said:

He was and still is not able to mentally handle the stress and paperwork that is needed in doing tis process but I am...Any advice???..

My response:

He's going to have to find a way or nothing is going to change.