"We all lived through it and for the better. "

It was definitely for the better in my case. I ended up living with my sister and her husband during my teenage years and they were able to counter most of the damage my mom had done. I ended up with morals and values that I don't think I would have if I'd lived with my mom during those years.

I see my kids getting better everyday so they'll be ok too. They're even starting to "like" it I think.