gracie,

I highly recommend making this part of the divorce paperwork, it's free and simple. I'm in the process of doing this a year after the decree was signed and have to pay $250 and appear in front of a judge with 2 adult witnesses. What a hassle!! Still can't wait to be me again though. By the way, we are nearly the same age & I have a 14 year old daughter, too! Small world.