I am aware that it's going to take legal intervention. I don't think the STBX or I thought we'd be a year into this process and still be where we are.

It's not that a Montessori program isn't good enough. In fact, I'd be happy (see the caveat) for her to continue in a different Montessori school where HER best interests are kept at stake, and the administration and staff don't interject themselves into our divorce by showing even a hint of bias toward one parent. I'm prohibited, whether implicitly or explicitly, from speaking to the teacher directly, and I am concerned about how their opinions impact her progress.

They appear to have taken a divide-and-conquer approach. The director is the only one who will speak to me about my inquiries about our child. Her daughter, our child's teacher, deals with him.

Even if one of us had a hands-down-no-questions-asked primary role, the staff should behave in a non-biased fashion - ALL of them, regardless of how they feel about the D. I am legally within my parental rights, even if I was named NCP, to be involved in her educational process.

The caveat is that I was ordered to pay the tuition for the daycare/school (nearly a year ago) when I had a job. I was fired from that job thanks to the STBX sending me a video clip of our child and I which had a silent install of keylogging software so that he could keep tabs on me. My employer didn't want to work with me to resolve the issues and gather the evidence to prove it. In this right-to-work state, I was terminated by phone, and mailed a stack of papers to sign, which a labor-employment attorney reviewed and informed me that they set me up, making it appear to be a voluntary separation.

So, I guess the next question becomes, if we're at this point thanks to his actions (and there is enough evidence against him to have legally halted other aspects of the divorce), and considering that pre-separation we'd discussed public school for her once the child did reach school-age (before I realized her daycare/school had no accreditation other than state childcare licensing regulations - which was FINE for me as she was a pre-schooler), do I flip burgers to keep her there another year, or go back to court and fight for public school for the 08-09 school year?

That essentially means I'd have to up the ante on getting primary designation before the 08-09 school year starts, uuggghhh, and I think I'm answering my own question here considering how much of this process is out of my control at present....