Let me reiterate the situation. The kids father doesn't want to set a schedule of any kind to visit w/ the kids. He continues to come up w/ excuses to tell them why he can't visit w/ them or they couldn't come there. After they went over to his place and saw the condition of the home's interior..they didn't want to return.
I have always since we separated given him free rein as far as visiting w/ the kids. He just chose not to. I didn't place a schedule in our decree just so he would feel comfortable giving of his time to them when he wanted to..not when the courts would allow him to.
I didn't inquire about them visiting w/ him until they continued to ask " why I didn't want them to go visit w/ him." I kept trying to leave it up to him to set the pace. HE JUST NEVER MANNED UP TO DO SO.
i WON'T EVER STAND IN THE WAY OF HIM HAVING A RELATIONSHIP W/ HIS CHILDREN..i HONOR THAT WHOLEHEARTEDLY!