[quote] Aside from the monetary and property issues, I happen to want my daughter. She is adopted and my family paid all the costs, however regardless, I love her and I want to raise her even if by myself. [/quote]

okay.
dont EVER let your little girl hear this line of reasoning.
she will feel bought and paid for.

and revamp your thought process in that arena!
that is NOT healthy for anyone!
try this line of thinking: if im getting a divorce my medical insurance company should have primary custody because they paid for most of the birth.
doesnt even make sense! See?

whatever means a child is brought into a family is how that child is brought into the family. and from there on it's in the past.

as for the rest....good luck.

is there ANY chance of saving this marriage?
irreconcialbe differences arent really worth the hell you, your wife, or you little girl will go through as a result of the divorce.