Ironically I'm not making up stuff. She shrieks at our daughter all the time. She has now admitted she has anger mgmt problems. I told her if she doesn't get help (professional, meds, etc...) I will divorce her and if she continues to browbeat the both of us, I will attempt to take her.

Memo to the critics.....What do I tell her when she asks me why mommy always yells at her????

Constructive and reponsive, non judgemental conversation is good, accusations are not. A pissing war I don't want, however I back down from no one.