"Joint custody is the norm these days."

K Just a Clarification, IMO everything you said is true and good advice.

Joint LEGAL custody is the norm. That means making major decisions both parties must agree. Often the CP only has to inform the NCP, and the NCP gets to offer advice ie: CP does whatever she wants.

Joint PHYSICAL custody with the mother as the primary CP is the norm at least 92% of the time, with Dad (NCP) getting "visitation" between an occasional supervised dinner up to liberal, which is every other weekend and on night during the week, 30-40% of the time. There is a presumption against rotating (ie:50%) shared custody in almost every state codified or by case law. Rotating only granted when the parties agree and then sometimes the judges refuse, never if the parties don't agree. This automatic removal of Dad from the childs life is supposedly in the child's best interest? Anyway it is a common tool used for ransom. You can usually buy more time with your child, if not now try again later.

and +1 starting, you better bury your (justified) anger. Ommmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmmm