YOU brought that $$ aspect into it.
quite possibly you didnt mean to, but you mentioned custody right after or before you mentioned who paid for the adoption. making it SOUND as if you should have custody because of who PAID for the adoption.

That's how im thinking the 'bought' comment came into this.

had you simply stated you had a daughter whom you love and you feel you should have full custody, it would not have been an issue.

and it shouldnt.
a son or daughter is just that regardless of how they become your child.

Memo to this particular adoption expert....the fact that I MENTIONED the adoption cost (there has to be one right?) was part of my anger. And let's not forget that anger is sometimes a part of divorce. Hence, there should be NO JUDGEMENT here (I've mentioned this before).

Question to you.....Ever been abused in any way, shape, or form? Have you ever been on the other side of the coin? Is it fair to say that you're here because you are either divorcing, divorced or been longtime divorced.

Get off your high horse, ladies