Not the point to tell it to your stbx. The only person you can control in your divorce is you. If the other party wants to escalate,you cannot stop it. But anything you can do to look reasonable and realistic will help you in the long run.

For an ex that wants to litigate everything, sometimes the only thing you can buy in the court is your credibility and some forgiveness.

And chatter, forget bumping this up - it should have been tattooed on my forehead during my divorce. I am very good at telling people to do as I say, not as I do...when I was in the thick of things, it took an outside person to get me to think logically sometimes.